Empowering Change Through Identity Transformation

After years of wrestling with a perfectionist mindset, shaped by the pressure to achieve academically, I uncovered the power of reshaping my identity to unlock personal growth. This episode promises to guide you on a transformative journey, inspired by insights from Emily Wilcox's "Wounds to Wealth" and Jim Fortin's latest book. We discuss the dynamic interplay between our energetic essence and the tangible actions needed to bring about change, demonstrating how inspired actions can manifest our deepest desires.

Together, we navigate the complex terrain of early childhood programming and its lasting impact, sharing personal reflections on ingrained beliefs and identity formation. As I juggle the responsibilities of two businesses, I highlight the importance of prioritizing those endeavors that truly energize us, and the necessity of transitioning from a victim mindset to that of a creator. Through real-life examples, including lottery winners and personal lifestyle shifts, we explore the profound connection between identity and behavior, emphasizing the conscious effort required for lasting fulfillment.

I open up about my own journey from corporate life to entrepreneurship, detailing the challenges and freedoms that come with such a transition. From moving towards being a non-drinker to embracing singlehood, each shift represents a step towards my highest self.

Additionally, I introduce a new coaching offer designed to help you align with your higher self, offering intuitive guidance for personal clarity.

With the holiday season upon us, emotions can run high, and I'm here to support you through it all, reminding you that you have the power to shape your identity and transform your life. Join our membership community for more insights and connect with me on Instagram to share your journey.

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Chapters

• 0:05 Transformation Through Identity Shifts
• 6:34 Personal Identity and Behavioral Change
• 12:03 Identity Shifts and Behavior Patterns
• 26:26 Personal Identity and Lifestyle Changes
• 36:24 Navigating Identity Shifts and Personal Growth
• 41:39 Shifting Identities for Personal Growth

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:05

Welcome to Unveiled the podcast. I'm your host, angela Christian, and I help you with unveiling your true self by peeling away the layers that society placed on you. I do this with a combination of neuroscience, energetics and ancient spiritual wisdom. I went from underpaid and overworked in corporate America to launching a six-figure company that continues to grow. I went from toxic relationships to being happy and single for over a year as I worked and continue to work on becoming the best version of myself, and so much more. My greatest passion is to help women and mothers heal, transform and become the highest versions of themselves. Heal, transform and become the highest versions of themselves. As I continue to grow and expand my intuitive knowledge and unique wisdom, I'll be including you on my journey to millions, so let's get into it.

Speaker 2: 0:57

Hello and welcome back to the show. Oh my gosh, I hope my travels are done for a little bit. Oh my gosh, I hope my travels are done for a little bit. It's been fun, but, as you know, I was in Dubai for a short period of time, which really messed with my sleep and all of that. Of course, I did have better jet lag issues this time than the last time I left the country, so it was a huge improvement, but still just, you know, a lot of sleep to catch up on, because I'd wake up at 1 am there. And then I just went to San Diego for a fun family trip, which was amazing, getting to see my oldest daughter thriving at college.

Speaker 2: 1:47

I got to do a lot of reading on the plane, and the two books that really inspired this episode today are one my friend Emily Wilcox's book, wounds to Wealth. Emily was on my podcast a few episodes back. Definitely go listen to it if you haven't. She's amazing and I actually didn't even realize how accomplished she was and how much she's done until I had her on my podcast and then reading her book was amazing as well. I also read Jim Fortin's latest book and I'll link both of these in the show notes if you want to go check them out yourself. I just always like to give credit where credit is due. Jim Fortin is amazing. I have been listening to him for years and he's actually how I first heard of DX, who is a shaman sorcerer that I work with. Yes, I said sorcerer. We're all actually sorcerers, but our powers have been hidden from us, which I'm so glad that the world is finally shifting and we're getting those powers back slowly but surely. And so that's when I first got on the wait list to work with DX and Catherine Zanchina, brandon Lucero, james Wedmore they all work with him as well and he, jim Fortin, has this series on his podcast right now called Conversations with a Sorcerer. Definitely go check, check that out. You'll learn more about that world From what he said. Dx's waitlist is now closed. I was on it for two years working with him in silence before I was able to actually work with him and speak to him, but it's been an amazing experience and I'm just looking forward to all the things that come from that. But if you're interested in just learning more, jim does a great job of sharing the ancient wisdom in his podcasts and in his book, so I realized a lot on this flight.

Speaker 2: 3:34

I already knew this, but sometimes we have to revisit very foundational ideas that we not necessarily take for granted, but kind of along that vein. And what I realized is I have done so much identity shifting. There are some areas of life where I still need to do some identity shifting and I'm going to talk about all these different areas of life where I've seen change, where I'm still struggling, and I would be really surprised if none of them you could relate to. So I'm sure there'll be one at least that you can relate to and hopefully you'll walk away feeling inspired and like ready to take action. Because while, yes, we are energetic beings, we are also in this physical body. So it has to be a mix of energetic and spiritual, or sorry, it has to be a mix of energetic and physical. So you know, I used to just think, if I visualize enough, if I meditate enough, if I wish like, it'll happen. But that's not how it works. We actually do have to take action, aligned action, inspired action. So today is all about our identity and why it's so hard to see change in our lives, even when we consciously really want it.

Speaker 2: 4:55

So, first of all, you can never outperform your identity. I've heard Jim say that. I don't know where that originated from, to be honest. I've heard him say that and I've heard Catherine say that, so I'm not sure where it came from exactly, but it was in his book and I was like such a good way to share that information. It's so clear, right? You can never outperform your identity. So that's what we're going to talk about today. If you transform your identity, you will 100% transform your identity. So that's what we're going to talk about today. If you transform your identity, you will 100% transform your life. And so just a little background and I talk about this in all of my programs, and that's what I do in the programs is I shift your identity for you and then we get into you know other steps where you can have more of an active participation. But at first I understand how hard it is. So the first four audios in I would say almost all of my programs are me shifting your identity for you, in a positive way, of course. So let's talk about what our identity is, how it came about. So your identity is what you have learned about yourself as a child, what was programmed into you, because from ages zero until about seven, what we took in, what we saw, what we were told, that all became our identity until we decide to change it. So there are certain programs that got programmed into you at that time Maybe it was, you know, in my household, money, money doesn't grow on trees.

Speaker 2: 6:34

You have to work really hard for money. I watched my parents At the time. They were both working at a mill and so my dad was a supervisor there. He would work during the day and then my mom had to go to work at night. So I saw my parents working really hard, tired, all the time, you know, and it was just like okay, that's what work looks like.

Speaker 2: 7:04

Maybe you were told you're not good enough. You weren't good enough in school. Maybe your teachers told you weren't good enough. Maybe your coach, if you're in sports, maybe they told you weren't good enough. Maybe you didn't feel smart enough right. A lot of teachers some intentional, some unintentional will say things to children that stick with them forever, like, oh, you're just not, you know, gifted there. Or they'll say things like oh, this is her strong suit, this isn't right.

Speaker 2: 7:31

So something that I programmed into myself as a child which goes along with the whole working hard is I wanted to make some money off of my hard work in school. So in about like second grade I went to my parents and I said, hey, can you give me $5 for every A? And they were like sure. So what do you think I did? I got straight A's just about every report card and so I would get to collect my money. But I worked really hard, you know, and I was naturally very academic. So it wasn't like worked really hard, you know, and I was naturally very academic, so it wasn't like. You know.

Speaker 2: 8:11

I was having to stay up until 3 am in second grade to do my work, but that continued and then I would feel really bad about myself if I got anything less than an A and I passed that on to my oldest daughter. I will not be passing that on to my other two, my poor oldest daughter, not be passing that on to my other two, my poor oldest daughter. It's like we always do that to our firstborn. We learn right, and so I made sure she was in the best schools. I would be hard on her if she didn't get good grades. She went to a college prep high school where she had a 4.6 GPA 4.6, like I didn't even know that was possible. And then she was burnt out and now she's in college and the other day she had a test. She stayed up till 3 am studying and then she said it was the easiest test she's ever taken. So now it's an adjustment, because high school was so much harder for her than colleges because she was in a very advanced college prep high school. So I saw how much pressure that put on her and I was like I will not do that to my other children.

Speaker 2: 9:11

So some people might not feel pretty enough, Maybe. You know, they look different from the other people, the popular kids, and so it was programmed into them that they weren't good enough, they weren't pretty enough. All of that, right, I remember. I don't know why this like sticks out to me so much, but I remember I was 16 and I was dating this older guy and I thought he was amazing, which he wasn't at the time. He was like a college dropout, literally living in the garage of his parents' house at the time. But he, you know, everybody knew him. He was good looking, looking all of that, and so I said something to him once. I don't know if I assumed I was his girlfriend or something and he kind of laughed and he was like you're too pretty to ever be girlfriend material. And I remember like that really stuck with me because then it made me feel like attractiveness is a weapon. Maybe he was trying to give me a compliment in a very weird way, but or maybe he's trying to make it clear that, like I wasn't his girlfriend, I don't know. But that stuck with me for a very long time and created some not so great experiences. Again. Now I know like more about our creator field and how we are creators, so I obviously was thinking that on some level as well, and so most people try to change their identity by changing their behavior, but that's actually not going to work. It's not going to stick. Just think about, you know me.

Speaker 2: 10:54

I recently made myself go to the gym, sign up for the gym membership, and I still haven't gone because my identity went from someone who I used to go to the gym almost every day. I used to go to Pilates every single day. I was a person who was working out. Then I moved and there's been a lot of reasons why I haven't been working out, one of them being there's no Pilates reformer classes here. The closest one is like an hour and 10 minutes away. So that was my identity, is like okay, pilates reformer, that's how I work out, that's how my body looks the best, all of that and then it just like got stripped away from me and I was like, oh, what am I gonna do? So obviously there's a gym here and I went and joined. But now I need to, I need to take the actions and align with that identity again of being someone who works out. So, because it was a past identity of mine, it's not going to be that hard to change back. But for the last year I haven't been working out. So that has become my identity, right? And so how many people are there who have gym memberships who don't go right?

Speaker 2: 12:03

So our behavior is a reflection of our identity. Behavior is a reflection of our identity. Our beliefs also play into this. So my belief was I don't get a good workout unless I'm using a Pilates reformer machine, right? So then of course, I'm not going to be motivated to go to the gym, even though I could still work out and make do with what's available, right? Our beliefs are formed by our thoughts, especially repeated thoughts. So one of the beliefs I'm still struggling with I've been struggling with, is I have to work really hard to make money.

Speaker 2: 12:40

And so I have two businesses. I have my CFO clients and then I have my coaching slash program business. And my CFO business resembles what it was like in the corporate world, right? I have clients who are relying on me, who need stuff done daily. If I'm not doing it, it's not getting done. I mean, I do have two people who work under me, but a lot of the stuff I'm managing it. So if I'm out for a week, a lot's not going to get done, whereas with my coaching and programs business, people can tap into my work at any time and I don't need to be there, which is amazing, right.

Speaker 2: 13:18

And so I've been prioritizing my CFO clients. I wake up and I've been answering emails and doing all of that, but where I feel alive is with my programs and my coaching. And I realized, oh, I've been prioritizing my energy towards the CFO clients. I need to make some changes so that I also prioritize my programs and coaching, because that's where I feel alive, that is where my sole pole career is. But in the back of my mind, my belief has been my sole pole career is. But in the back of my mind, my belief has been but I have to work really hard because with the CFO clients, that supports that belief, that behavior supports that belief where with my programs, I can be on vacation which I was and someone can sign up to one of my programs.

Speaker 2: 14:02

I didn't do anything to you know, other than maybe they've been watching my social media or maybe they heard me on a podcast or something, but I wasn't actively doing anything in that moment to work for that person to sign up Right, and then, once they're signed up, I don't have to do anything because it's all automated. Besides, like in my membership, I have live monthly calls and then in my Clean BDE program we have calls as well, but otherwise it's's like it requires very little energy for me, which is amazing like I put a lot of energy into making it. Well, that's not exactly true my membership. I do create content every month for and I am still finishing up my clean bde program, but it's not like anybody's emailing me daily like hey, where, where is this? Whereas with my CFO clients I get an email and I've been programmed from working in the accounting finance space for so long that, especially at firms where they're like, you have to respond within 24 hours. So I will drop everything and respond to a CFO client, because I still have an identity of working in corporate America, which I'll talk about in just a second.

Speaker 2: 15:09

So we don't get what we want from life, we get what we are Okay. So we have to look at the different areas of life and see where are you happy? Which area of life do you want to change? And your attempt to change and your effectiveness with this change is going to be a result of who you are, not what you're doing. Okay, we really have to change at an identity level. Our identity has to shift and on the plane ride I realized this.

Speaker 2: 15:50

That from my relationship standpoints where I've been in abusive relationships, I was looking at the identity change I've had, which went from victim you know, when you're in the abuse you are very much a victim of abuse then when you leave, you become a survivor. You can stay there, which I did for a long time, but you're surviving like that. I don't. I'm not. That's not good enough for me. I don't want to just survive. So then I realized oh, what am I doing now? I am creating my life. So I went from victim to survivor to creator. That's what I do for you in Clean BDE and my membership, as well as the breakout blueprint, which is where I'm helping people leave the corporate world, not overnight, but like first, by changing their identity.

Speaker 2: 16:47

Because what I realized is I tried to leave corporate America several times but my identity which some of it still is stuck there, but very small percentage, I would say my entire identity was still in corporate America, but I was trying to launch my own business and that doesn't work. So another way you can look at this is you know, even when external factors change, if you haven't changed internally, it's all going to go away. So just look at, like lottery winners, if they were already in welfare or, like you know, low, even middle class, just barely surviving. The statistics are 70% of lottery winners are broke within five years because their external, external situation changed a lot that their identity did not change. They were still identifying themselves subconsciously. So this is all subconscious right, but in my programs I talk a lot about conscious versus subconscious and maybe I'll do a whole episode on that. I know I've done some in the past, but I'll I'll do some new episodes on that.

Speaker 2: 17:55

So their subconscious mind, their identity, pulled them right back to their comfort zone, even though consciously, that's not what they wanted. That's what happened, and I have examples of that in my own life where I was making six figures. At one point it was just me and my two girls. We were living on our own in this beautiful house in Marin County and I was making six figures and I won a six-figure lawsuit and I went through that money in a year and I was right back to working a place because my identity didn't change. Yes, the external situation changed. I got a lot of money, but because I didn't change my identity and my subconscious mind, which one of my identities was money's not safe with me. I go through money quickly. I'm bad at managing money because that was drilled into my head as a child, because I watched my mom have that very real experience, but then she also put that onto me a lot and so I didn't even know what was happening and I was like, how did I go through all of that money? And it wasn't like I was doing anything extravagant, but because my subconscious wanted to feel safe, wanted to match my internal world to my external world, and so all of that money was gone very quickly.

Speaker 2: 19:23

And just look at all the actors, athletes, who have had similar situations. I read this in Jim's book. That was pretty shocking to me was that Mike Tyson made $300 million and he lost all of it. I think Jim said he's back to like $10 million or something. I think Jim said he's back to like 10 million or something, but that's because his external changed but his internal didn't. So that's why all of these actors and athletes, if they don't take the time to change their internal identity, you might see them like lose it all, gain it back, lose it all, gain it back, and it's. It's just a reflection of what's happening internally. And something that Jem wrote that I loved was identity is your destiny. If you don't like that, then you have to change your identity, and this is both a conscious and subconscious thing, and that's why I'm obsessed with unconscious reprogramming, because that has what helped, what has helped me change my identity in so many areas of life, and I'm going to share those with you.

Speaker 2: 20:36

So I went from loving like the bad boy right. I even remember, before any traumatic I mean to my memory anything traumatic happening to me. I was about seven and I remember watching Billy Idol on MTV and I was just like in love with him. I mean, how weird is that A seven-year-old in love with Billy Idol? So he is like the epitome of like British bad boy rocker and I would just watch him and like I really thought I was going to marry Billy Idol. Then I moved on to Tommy Lee. I was obsessed with Tommy Lee when I was like 18, 19. And that just like that bad boy lifestyle and like I don't know exactly why I was so drawn to that. But that reflected what I called into my life and one of my exes.

Speaker 2: 21:35

I like to give them movie, I like to give them personas that like, if you watched a funny sitcom of me and my baby daddies, that this is kind of what they would look like. One of them is very much like an Adam Sandler easy go lucky, happy guy. One of them is, I would say, kind of like Jude Law, like very serious, good-looking but like there's some darkness there. And then one of them is very much like Tommy Lee party lifestyle, like tattoos, all of. So it's very much reflected in my past. I haven't looked into this intuitively. I am trained in scientifically precise intuition.

Speaker 2: 22:19

So I thought about this as I was planning out this episode. I was like I want to look into that. Like, why, why was I drawn from such a young age to these, to these guys, right? But then once I realized that I started shifting that identity, I realized, okay, I'm looking for something in them. And also it was part of my creator field where I was beating myself up all the time and so of course, I attracted guys who, you know, some of them literally beat me up or would beat me up with their words, others physically. And so when I started shifting that and really started to just work on and it sounds cheesy, but like loving myself, loving myself that was one thing about when I was getting trained in RRT is it was very much like a no-no to talk about loving yourself, but I actually feel it's 100% necessary to love yourself.

Speaker 2: 23:21

Most issues are a self-image issue. It's an identity issue. I would say like if not all, it's an identity issue. I would say like if not all. So that always sat like wrong with me. I was like, no, I actually believe self-love is like one of the most important things that you can do for yourself. So when I changed my identity and realized, okay, this is just reflecting my internal world.

Speaker 2: 23:46

The next guy I dated was a really nice guy Not for me, but he was a nice guy. I also went from someone who was so boy crazy, like I remember in kindergarten chasing the boys and like trying to kiss them, okay. So I've always been really boy crazy and I've always had relationships. Like I think the longest relationship or the longest time before this time that I went single was like three months or something and that I'd always have another boyfriend. So it was like, and then when I was with someone, I would change so that I was pleasing to them and I even did this with the nice guy so like he felt very strongly about certain way of politics.

Speaker 2: 24:32

I kept quiet even though I felt the exact opposite, and inside I was like what are you doing? Like speak up for yourself, which is something I've, you know I'm still working on, and it's not even just about speaking up for yourself. It's okay to have healthy disagreements. It's okay to be like cool, you, you like that or you agree with that. I don't like, let's chat about it. You know. I just like avoided confrontation. That's another identity thing is avoiding confrontation. Because my mother told me don't make a scene, just please others. So that became my identity don't make a scene, just please others. And so that's what my behavior did and that's why I've struggled with sticking up for myself or just even speaking my mind right.

Speaker 2: 25:17

So after him I was like okay, there's still some things I need to work on at an identity level. I need to really just focus on myself, my kids and get it together. So I have been single for a year and a half. That's insane and I'm happy. I'm even like, oh my gosh, will I ever start dating? But then there's some days where I really do miss having a partner, but I could not go back to any of the you know type of people I've dated in the past, and so it's going to be a whole new identity shift dating. And I still want to get really solid on my emotions. So I'm in an emotions mastery course with Alessandro, which has been amazing, because if you get your emotions under control, you'll have your whole life under control, like I wish I would have been taught that at a young age, and so I'm teaching that to my kids too. It was like and I'm teaching it inside my clean BDE program, and next month, in my membership for November, it's all going to be on emotions. So if this is something you struggle with, hop on in to the membership, because if you master your emotions, you can master your life.

Speaker 2: 26:26

Okay, so some other identity shifts I've noticed is I used to be someone who wanted to have a glass of wine every night. Right, I enjoyed having a glass of wine every night when I was with an ex-partner. That's how we would unwind. It was often how fights would start too, though, and so after I left him, I decided I don't want that to be my identity, and it was something that we struggled with in our relationship, because I wanted it not to be our identity. I wanted it to be. You know, maybe a dinner out, have a glass of wine, and he was an alcoholic, so it was just not going to work. So now I would consider myself almost like a non-drinker. Like I'll have wine if I'm out to dinner, I'll have a glass of wine, or if I'm on vacation, I'll have a glass of wine, otherwise I don't drink. So that was a huge identity shift from going to a nightly wine drinker to rarely ever drinking, maybe once a month. The other one I already mentioned relationship addict to happily single. That is a huge identity shift right A Pilates junkie to a non-workout person, which that I'm working on. So stay tuned.

Speaker 2: 27:42

One last one I'll mention or no, sorry, two more I'll mention. One is from corporate worker to entrepreneur. Okay, so this is what I talk about in the Blueprint Breakout, because I saw personally how difficult this was for me. I have been. I got my first job at 15 and always had a job. Like I'm trying to think if there was ever a time other than when I was pregnant or just had a baby. I have always had a job, even through college I worked. Even through when I was getting my master's, I worked full-time. So I've always been basically being told what to do, right, and so I did have the luxury of working at this really great finance firm. That was virtual and so it very much felt like I was running my own business, but I still had people to answer to.

Speaker 2: 28:33

Management changed and everything changed. I would have stayed there probably for 10 years, 15 years, if the management had stayed in place, because it was very much a culture where you were just like not being micromanaged. The new management came in, and of course you know, companies go through those phases where they're startup and then they want more money. They want more money, and then everything changes and they bring people in where they align it to just the bottom line and then they want more money. They want more money and then everything changes and they bring people in where they align it to just the bottom line and then things fall apart. Like a lot of companies go through that, and obviously I needed the push out.

Speaker 2: 29:09

So after that I did try to go out on my own. Didn't quite work. I went back to corporate America and I was like, oh my God, hell, no, I can't do this. And I'm not saying like sometimes I think, gosh, it would almost be easier if I did have a salary job but then was working on my business as well, because I'm like you know, it's hard running two companies, I'm not going to lie. It's a lot of responsibility, but it's also a lot of freedom.

Speaker 2: 29:49

And something I noticed, though and it's better now, but I still see a little bit of flare up is I'll be on vacation or I'll be doing something and I'll think, oh, I'm going to get in trouble, I have to go, I have to work and so I have to tell myself, no, you're no longer an employee, you're an entrepreneur and, yes, you have clients. But you know I have a 24 hour, 48 hour. I guess I should know that response time. But I'm someone who just usually responds very quickly because I don't like, if I see an email come through, I'm not going to just ignore it and just be like, oh well, they can wait. You know I do care about my clients and but like, that whole shift has been a huge identity shift and so that's why I'm creating the blueprint breakout is because I know a lot of people especially well, I can say especially because this has been my world but especially in the accounting finance world, there's a lot of trauma, which sounds so funny like accountant trauma, but there is because when you're in these big firms and I've worked in a lot of them there's a lot of pressure on you to get back to people to do this right.

Speaker 2: 30:50

And I remember in the one of the firms I worked at, the last firm I worked at, they gave me this client that was a real estate company and it wasn't just like a small real estate company, it was a huge commercial real estate company and I'd never done any kind of controller or CFO work with a real estate company. I don't even own my own home, so I don't know the real estate business, right, and what they told me was it's just like any other account. And I said no, it's not, I don't know the real estate terms. Like there were all these terms in their finance financials that I didn't understand, like yes, I could Google them, but like it was very intricate. And so I asked one question and once they answered I was like okay, got it. They tried to then tell me that I shouldn't have asked that question and I was like what? Like what kind of culture are you trying to create?

Speaker 2: 31:52

And that is very common in a lot of accounting and financial firms. There's a lot of under. They underpay their employees, they overwork them and it's just crazy. So I feel for anybody who's working in an accounting or finance firm like it people actually doing the work If you can't keep employees, you're not going to have a great business. So anyway, went off on a tangent there. But so I realized like God, there's a lot of trauma. And then I've even worked with some independent contractors who also came from the firm world and they don't know how to talk to me like a person. They talk to me like that is out of scope, or that is not in our contract, or this or that, and it's like I am a person like, can we just like have a human conversation? Uh, we're both, like you know, running our own companies. Can we just have some kindness and graciousness towards each other? And then I realized it's not their fault, like that is their identity still, even though they have their own company. That's still their identity. So the final one I'll talk about is like going from sick, like being sick all the time and victimhood to healthy.

Speaker 2: 33:16

As a young girl, I realized quickly that if I was sick, I got a lot of attention. People felt bad for me. It was hard to get in trouble if we were sick. So, oh my god, was I sick a lot. Also, I had a lot of reflections happening which I wouldn't have known what that was back then. So then I went through the whole black mold thing where I lost several homes. I had to walk away from an entire household of things like everything I'd ever had in my life. I had to walk away from us literally went to Target, took my clothes off, threw them in the trash and had to start from scratch. And you know, a lot of people felt bad for me and I was a single mom and all of this stuff.

Speaker 2: 33:56

And one day I realized like I don't want to be the victim anymore, I don't want people feeling sorry for me. And I asked myself and actually it was pretty advanced for back then, when I hadn't gone through all of this training and reprogramming but I asked myself what is it that I'm wanting? And I realized I just wanted people to. I just wanted to feel love, right. And it's like okay, I don't need to be sick for people to feel love from people. And you know what, it's even better if I can just get that love for myself. So whatever you're needing from other people, you can get from yourself.

Speaker 2: 34:35

If you're not feeling like you're getting attention from other people, that actually means you're not giving attention to're getting attention from other people. That actually means you're not giving attention to yourself in a certain area of life. And so there's eight areas of life where you can check like okay, am I giving myself attention here? There's vocation, which is actually like your sole pull career. If you just have a job. That's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about your sole pull career. Everybody has a soul pull career path. There's financial, there's spiritual, there's mental, there's social, there's family, which includes, like, if you live with a partner physical and passion hobby, okay, so those are the eight areas of life. So if you're feeling like you want attention or you want love or you want something, you're actually not giving it to yourself in one of those areas of life.

Speaker 2: 35:28

So we are literally I love Alessandro says this all the time and Allie says it too but like we are literally all living in our own Truman show. So like we're walking around with a creator field and it's handing out the script to everyone around us how to treat us right. So if we want something and we change it internally, it's going to change the whole script. Everybody in your little Truman show will get a new script. Like if you're wanting attention and you realize, oh, I'm not giving myself attention financially, so like maybe you've been ignoring your finances, right, and you start making an active change to shift that identity, shift your behavior, all of that then you're going to see a shift in the people around you as well. So like the whole script will change, not just for yourself, but for others. So that's why this is all so, so key to creating a better life.

Speaker 2: 36:24

So, just like I said in the beginning, going from you know it doesn't have to just be in domestic violence situations like mine. It can be in any area of life. You can go from victim to survivor to creator. Like which one sounds the most empowering to you? Creator, right, you want to be creating your own life. You can, but it all starts with your identity and that includes how you see yourself, how you treat yourself. So, like I said, is it fun changing your identity at a core level? No, it's not always fun and it's not easy.

Speaker 2: 37:02

I'll give one final example as I wrap up. This is a very long, unscripted podcast episode, but I felt so inspired this morning I was like I have to share this. So something I'm shifting is I used to run away from any form of conflict, like I would run away from it. I am taking an emotions mastery course, like I mentioned with Alessandro, and I've had all of these opportunities. They could be called obstacles, but I'm calling them opportunities where conflict is happening and I'm choosing to lean into it, to face it, to be in the discomfort of it and I'm actually trying to make it fun, Like, okay, my higher self is excited right now that I'm learning how to deal with conflict and that I'm leaning in. As soon as I do this enough, all of those obstacles are going to drop off dramatically. So, yes, you heard me right. Once you learn how to like, if you deal with this too, and you learn how to lean in, at some point those obstacles will go down from like a daily struggle, like, if you're finding daily obstacles, it's either a creator field issue or it's a sole contract issue.

Speaker 2: 38:17

I can tell you that, oh, which reminds me I am creating this new offer. I haven't really, like talked about it publicly at all. I think it's called they're called telegram coaching calls, but what it is is you can either ask me one question, which would equate to about 15 minutes it's $88. You can ask me two questions, that's $176. Or you can ask me three questions and you save a little bit. It's $244 for three questions. So what that looks like and I don't have a sales page or anything I have a link. I'll share a Calendly link. You'll be prompted to choose a date. It doesn't matter what date you choose, you will get an answer from me within three business days. I'm working on an actual sales page for this, but it's something I'm just playing around with. I've offered it to people in my programs and I'm offering it now on the podcast. I want to try it out a little bit before just going full public with it, but you'll purchase that. You'll find me on Telegram. I share my Telegram handle and then you'll record a voice note to me or you can just write it out either way about your question.

Speaker 2: 39:32

So a question can be around like lately I've been looking in to see what kind of dark energy, dark forces, might be on someone and then helping them clear that. So that would be one question, like do I have any dark forces? If I find that you have a ton, then that might be more of a two question thing. But if, if there's just one or two, I'll just respond back with like yes, here's what I see, here's how to clear them. Or you can ask me, like my friend asked me should I, should I invest three thousand dollars in this program? I saw that her higher self did not want her to invest three thousand dollars in that program and it would only help her about 40. It was like a hormone health program. I can intuitively look at all of this from a very scientifically accurate way because I've been trained in it. So another question, you know. So if you're thinking about investing in a course and you just want someone to look in like, hey, is this a good, should I invest in this course? Here is my goal. So what she told me and this would be like a one question thing I'm thinking about investing in this course, it on, you know, it's for hormones, it's three thousand dollars. Here's the person's name of the course. Does my higher self feel aligned with this? And so then what I do is I ask a ton of questions to find out if it's in alignment with your higher self. How much of how much percentage wise is the course? Source information, because this is a whole different topic for a different day.

Speaker 2: 41:01

But a lot of programs are very watered down and like they could be helpful a little bit. But if you think about, you know, is three thousand. If you're investing three thousand dollars into a program and it's only 40 percent source truth, meaning it's only going to help you 40 percent, like to me that's an F's a fail. So like no. So what I did was I told her here's three other programs I found that actually have a way higher percentage of source information and they were less expensive. So I saved her money and I gave her program ideas and I'm not an affiliate for any of these, so it wasn't like a personal gain for me.

Speaker 2: 41:39

I wouldn't do that.

Speaker 2: 41:40

So that's one thing you can do.

Speaker 2: 41:43

And another thing you can do is just like say I've noticed this pattern in my life or I want to switch this identity.

Speaker 2: 41:51

There's all different things and I will say if you're seeing that like you have one of these patterns or identity issues, I would say join my membership, because for $77 a month you can cancel anytime, you can go through these audios and start shifting immediately and as of right now we do have a live call every month. But I would recommend joining the membership and going that route membership and going that route. Unless it's like a baby daddy type issue, clean BDE will be your best choice and it does have the reprogramming in there too. So I hope this was helpful. I always love to hear from you guys like, what you found helpful, what you'd like to hear more of, and I will probably do a little sneak peek of the emotions topic, because the holidays are starting to come up and I know that a lot of emotions happen, a lot of feelings happen around that. So I got your back, sending you guys so much love, thank you.

Speaker 1: 42:58

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