From Emotional Trainwreck to Inner Peace: How to Stop Leaking Energy

Imagine waking up feeling centered and calm, then maintaining that peace regardless of what life throws your way—spilled coffee, challenging emails, or difficult conversations. This isn't just a fantasy; it's the reality of emotional mastery, and I'm here to show you exactly how to achieve it.

Most of us weren't taught emotional intelligence in school or at home, leaving us vulnerable to constant emotional hijacking. We mistake dramatic outbursts for passion, romanticize emotional volatility in relationships, and waste precious energy reacting to every trigger that comes our way. I share my personal journey from being an "emotional trainwreck" who would hold in feelings until exploding, to developing true emotional sovereignty through understanding the deeper spiritual laws governing our experiences.

The game-changing concept: Law of Reflections—the understanding that our external environment mirrors our internal state & imbalances. When someone hurts your feelings, their behavior is actually reflecting something within you that needs attention. By identifying and addressing these reflections, we stop the cycle of blame and reclaim our power. My 10-year-old daughter already applies this wisdom when dealing with friendship challenges, demonstrating how accessible these concepts can be when taught early.

I also tackle the topic of dark / dense energy—spiritual forces that can manifest as persistent headaches, fatigue, or unexplained emotional heaviness. 

Unlike conventional approaches that manage symptoms, my methods address root causes through nervous system regulation, energetic clearing, and intentional presence.

Ready to stop leaking energy through emotional reactivity? Join my EX Detox Masterclass to learn the four pillars of permanent healing and transform your relationship with emotions once and for all. Your journey to emotional mastery begins now—where will you take it?

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Unveiled Podcast
• 1:34 The Problem with Emotional Hijacking
• 3:35 Emotional Mastery vs. Emotional Management
• 8:45 Understanding the Law of Reflections
• 15:34 Romanticizing Emotional Volatility
• 17:12 Dark Energy and Its Effects
• 21:36 High-Frequency Parenting Approaches
• 25:40 Resources and Final Thoughts

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:05

Welcome to Unveiled, the podcast. I'm your host, angela Christian, and I help you with unveiling your true self by peeling away the layers that society placed on you. I do this with a combination of neuroscience, energetics and ancient spiritual wisdom. I went from underpaid and overworked in corporate America to launching a six-figure company that continues to grow. I went from toxic relationships to being happy and single for over a year as I worked and continue to work on becoming the best version of myself, and so much more. My greatest passion is to help women and mothers heal, transform and become the highest versions of themselves. As I continue to grow and expand my intuitive knowledge and unique wisdom, I'll be including you on my journey to millions, so let's get into it. Well, hello, welcome back to Unveiled. I have a fun podcast episode for you guys today. I did a post about this yesterday. It was a fun little spicy post, but it was something titled the Day I Stopped Thinking being an Emotional Trainwreck Was Cute or something like that. I thought that was pretty funny. But it's a very real thing to continuously be hijacked by other people, by other people's emotions, by email notifications, by social media posts, and we aren't meant to live in a world like that, where we're constantly having to react. So I actually did an intuitive read for someone this morning and the thing I saw for her was that her nervous system really needed to be regulated before she could even attempt to grasp this higher frequency type of energetic work. Right, because when your nervous system is hijacked, you are not able to tap into the higher levels of wisdom, intuition, creativity, knowledge. You're literally just like a caveman running away from a lion. So are you going to be able to understand energetic spiritual laws of the universe? Right, not very well, or you might hear it, but it might go in one ear and out the other. So this episode's for you. If you find yourself which I would say 86% of the world does, find yourself being hijacked emotionally, like you might even wake up feeling great and then you go into your car and you spill coffee all over your pants, right? So that is actually a reflection in case I didn't share that last. That actually happened to me and I shared it somewhere. I can't remember if it was on the podcast, but when you spill water, that's like a level one sign that you are leaking energy. Then you have to figure out where right in the eight areas of life. If you spill coffee, especially my kind of coffee, that's very high end you are wasting precious energy. So it's like for me, it was like a level three, because I was more upset that I spilled my coffee than like that it got on my pants because I love my coffee. So, as you might be able to hear, I am feeling fantastic today and I'm going to tell you why feeling fantastic today and I'm going to tell you why. And I even had a moment this morning where I could have been hijacked, but I wasn't, and I'm going to share you how, or share, share you how. I'm going to tell you how. Okay.

Speaker 1: 3:35

So emotional mastery, emotional intelligence this is what should be being taught in schools. This is more important than freaking geometry, okay, this is more important than most of the stuff we're taught in school. Oh, to hold your emotions, how to protect your emotions, how to hold your own thoughts, how to protect your thoughts. If the majority of the world did this, it would be such a different place. I mean, all you have to do is look on social media and see all the anger and the reactions and and all of that. Those people are in fight or flight there. They have no emotional intelligence, right? So and it's not their fault they weren't taught that in school. They weren't taught that by their parents because our parents didn't even know. Like my mother's very emotionally immature and I tell her that, so I'm not talking crap about her. I tell her that all the time and she wants to improve. That's the great thing, right? So emotional mastery, that is the real flex that no one talks about, or very few people talk about, but it is the game changer when you're stepping into a higher frequency life, when you're stepping into higher frequency ways of living.

Speaker 1: 4:50

And I did not have this down, just like when I posted on Instagram yesterday about being an emotional train wreck. That was actually me. I was either. I would go from, mostly in relationships, romantic relationships I would hold it in, hold it in, hold it in. Then maybe I'd have some wine and I would explode. I didn't know how to share my feelings. I didn't feel safe to share my feelings, not because of necessarily what they were doing.

Speaker 1: 5:18

Just as a child, when we're told over and over again, stop crying, get over it, like all of those things, it teaches us that it's not safe to express ourselves, right? So I always allow my children. If they need to cry, I just hug them and let them cry and I never tell them stop crying. I never try to diminish what they're experiencing, and that is a really important thing that I wish more parents would do so. When I would do that, I would just like blow up and then I was at the point where I would just say really mean things, and if I had just well, first of all, there's a whole different world called reflections, which is basically like when your soul is out of balance and your environment meaning people matter, circumstances reflects that back to you, right. So it's actually really helpful. But most people see it as like just a ton of obstacles, like more obstacles they have to go through.

Speaker 1: 6:20

If I had known about the law of reflections back then, I would have obviously done things much differently. But let's just pretend there wasn't a law of reflection. So if I had just looked at the situation and the level one things that kind of pissed me off with my partner or something and I had just addressed it, it would have diffused right, but instead it got up to a level eight. And I had just addressed it, it would have diffused right before, but instead, it got up to a level eight, and then I exploded. So now, though, I mean, I've been single for two years, so I'm not in a romantic relationship right now. I, however, when I am in one again, I will definitely look at myself first before I even say anything to my partner, because if they let's say, they say something to me and it hurts my feelings, I know that what they're saying is actually how they feel about themselves, but how they're being towards me. That is my own reflection.

Speaker 1: 7:17

So, as an example, my teen the other day. She's away at college and she was having a really bad day and she was kind of taking it out on me and I knew what she was saying to me was what she wanted to tell herself, so I didn't take that personally. When I got off the phone with her, I felt for a moment like I wanted to cry, right, but then I was like OK, let's just look at this, let's look at the reflections of this. And, if this sounds totally foreign to you, in my membership next month I'm completely focusing on reflections, and my mentor actually told me that I am gifted when it comes to reflections, so it makes sense that I was in, like the CFO accounting world for so long, because it's all about solving puzzles. Reflections are very much like that. This month and last month were all about relationships and then April will be all about reflection. So if this interests you, definitely hop in.

Speaker 1: 8:17

So going back to this, I looked at how she was being towards me and I felt like she was embarrassed of me. I knew she wasn't, I knew that was a reflection. So then I go in and I see where am I embarrassed about something I'm doing? And I found the areas of life, because oftentimes it's in more than one right and then you shift it there. So I will be teaching my members how to actually shift these reflections as well.

Speaker 1: 8:39

So there's this whole process that maybe 5% of the world knows about. It's just crazy and like we weren't taught these things, and so I feel very passionate about this. I'm going to teach anybody who wants to learn this. I'm teaching my kids already. My 10-year-old already understands reflections and she knows that if her friends are leaving her out, that if her friends aren't valuing her, that she's not valuing herself in a certain area of life. She doesn't know yet how to like dial in which area of life, but she'll come to me and say, mom, my friends did this, can you help me? So she's really interested in decoding this.

Speaker 1: 9:21

And I think that's absolutely amazing, because this world that we're living in right now, where majority of the people just blame, just point fingers, and it's like it's so low frequency and, again, it's not their fault. They weren't taught any differently and I used to do that too, so I'm not like talking crap here. It's just now that I know the truth, like the source truth, of what that does to their creator field, what that does to their life. It's just like, oh my gosh, our whole like school system needs to be redone, okay, so, getting back to this, I used to think it was like funny that I was so fiery and passionate and like I was like, well, I'm Irish and Italian, right, or I've been through a lot, so that was my excuse, or blaming my childhood, blaming my exes, blaming my circumstances. I was always blaming everything. I was giving away my power to everybody, right.

Speaker 1: 10:15

And I remember like I've been learning and dialing in emotional mastery, emotional intelligence, since 2020. And it is like pretty dialed in, right, but I didn't realize how dialed in it was until one day I was watching the notebook. I'm not sure if you've seen that. A lot of people haven't. Actually, it's kind of bizarre. I think all women probably have, but I know a lot of men who haven't seen that.

Speaker 1: 10:44

Anyway, when they are, you know that scene where they're like yelling at each other in the rain, they're fighting. She even like pushes him Right and it's very passionate and I used to think, oh, my gosh, I want to love like theirs. It's so romantic, it's so passionate. That is Hollywood doing its thing, like glamorizing the darkness. It's glamorizing these things trying to keep us stuck. That is not what true love looks like with a soulmate, okay.

Speaker 1: 11:16

So I remember watching it and I was like kind of grossed out. And then I was like Whoa cow, who's like the wealthy businessman who she had like taken care of. And when he was hurt during his time in the military, he was calm, he was emotionally steady, he was very mature. I used to think, oh, he's so boring, right. And I remember I was like, wow, he is it, he is it. And I don't even watch that movie anymore. I used to watch it all the time and I'm like, wow, things have really shifted, because for however long the notebook has been out. I used to just think Noah and Ali were like amazing. And then I was like, oh gosh, no, that is so toxic, right.

Speaker 1: 12:09

So I had been really romanticizing emotional volatility my entire life. I had been mistaking chaotic relationships for depth, and the worst part was is I had been playing out that same script in my own life. Right, I would get triggered by a slow driver. Or I could get an email from someone I hired and it could piss me off and like I wouldn't even actually read what they wrote. It was crazy. My mind created something totally different and then I would get myself dialed in and then I'd look at the email and it was like there was nothing triggering about it. It was just like an old program running in the background that triggered me. Or I could get a text from someone and it just like made me spiral right. So blaming everything outside of me. I was like, okay, this isn't working. And then I realized I was the common denominator. But I wasn't the problem, it was the tools I was given and it's the same for you. You are not the problem, it's the old lower frequency tools you've been giving you've been given.

Speaker 1: 13:17

Right, we were never taught how to actually process emotions in a way that neutralizes them. Instead, we were told how to manage our emotions sit with them, process them, let them move through us. Right, that is emotional management. That is not emotional mastery. Emotional management can be a full-time job if you don't have high frequency tools, and let me tell you, reflections can can be a full-time job if you don't have high frequency tools, and let me tell you, reflections can feel like a full-time job sometimes as well. But here's the thing you get soul karma points when you are leaning into the reflections and you are decoding them. So just sitting with your emotions, journaling about them, talking about them, processing them, that can feel good. It's like a sugar rush release. But that's not going to take care of the actual root issue, especially if you're still getting triggered a lot. Okay, and it's not your fault.

Speaker 1: 14:12

Again, these are just the lower frequency tools we were given and a really good way to put this is like managing emotions is kind of like you're driving an old car, like my stepdad used to have this truck and it didn't have power steering and it's very hard to steer it. It's like takes up so much energy and strength and you're wrestling the wheel trying to keep it steady and the road is throwing like bumps, potholes, all these things your way. Right, it's exhausting. Now, emotional mastery is like driving a luxury car with the smoothest power steering Like something pops up. You just shift effortlessly a bump in the road, you just glide over it. Nothing jerks you off course. This is the difference, this is the feeling and high frequency people like you I was gonna say women, but like I know I have some men who listen to they don't white knuckle their way through emotional chaos.

Speaker 1: 15:11

They don't spiral when their co-parent sends them some like texts right, they don't let other people dictate their piece. They own the damn wheel. So how do you actually delete the triggers at the source instead of just learning to manage them? So I'm going to be diving into all of this in my X Detox Masterclass, which is only $47. In my X detox masterclass, which is only $47, I'm going to tell you the four codes of permanent healing and I am going to give you tools that you will be able to walk away with and like use. Right then, because here's the thing we are always going to be going through obstacles. There's never a time, even in the highest frequency people, they're still going to be going through obstacles and evolving and learning Right.

Speaker 1: 16:03

But now I look at the smallest signs of being out of balance, like the other day. I went to get a cup of water in my kitchen and I started walking and the glass had a hole in the bottom of it. So I was spilling water all over the kitchen and I didn't even realize it. So instantly I was like, oh, I'm leaking energy, and I knew exactly what it was. It was social media. I was spending way too much time on social media, set some boundaries for myself and shifted it, because I would rather deal with the level one it because I would rather deal with the level one reflections than wait until it gets louder, right. But this stuff is complex, it's not super easy and, honestly, it has nothing to do with other people. It has everything to do with you and your frequency and your emotions.

Speaker 1: 16:52

Because I'm going to tell you two things that happened to me and how I managed this. So, if you saw my Instagram post, I said I was going to cover a couple of things, so let me cover those before we wrap up. First thing is I woke up feeling freaking amazing today. So, as I had shared, there were like six weeks where I had my children and I had influenza A. I let my ego kind of get in the way and I was like, oh, I never, I'm never sick more than two days. Oh my gosh, I was down for like four weeks. I was really, really struggling and I knew it was a reflection and I was really trying to dial in and I would shift it. And then it would kind of shift to something else. So I would heal the sore throat which is like unprocessed anger. Then it would shift to a cough which is feeling like you can't take space up in a certain area of life, right? So I kept healing and shifting, and healing and shifting.

Speaker 1: 17:53

And then there's something else called dark force, dark energy, dense energy, which I've talked about before. But if this is your first podcast, I do have an entire course on that and I've been trained intensely in that over the last year. So there are spiritual teachers out there, some of them intentionally using dark force energy to kind of hook people into their work, to make it very fluffy so that people don't actually reach their potential. And I would name names and you would know exactly who they are, but I'm not going to on my podcast. Then there are people who are unintentionally infiltrated with dark forces. So they might be really bright lights, they might be really high frequency people, but they have been either working with someone else who has dark force issues or they just don't know how to protect themselves from this dark, dense energy, right? So my mentor had told me I had to really uh, there's different realms I'm not going to get into it today but a higher realm being they're harder to clear than lower realm beings.

Speaker 1: 19:04

Okay, so I had this higher realm issue and I thought I had taken care of it, but for the last probably like four weeks, I've been waking up every morning with a really intense headache, and I felt like I didn't get any sleep, even though I go to bed early I go to bed like at 930. And I would get a full night's sleep. There are very specific sleep protections I do for myself and my kids, though, because sleep time is a time where dark forces like to infiltrate your energy and your dreams. So I was waking up with a headache every day, and that is a sign that you're being hard on yourself, right? That is a sign of being hard on yourself. So I was like, oh, I'm being hard on myself. I need to stop being hard on myself. Which made me feel hard on myself.

Speaker 1: 19:56

But then last night I had this revelation. I was like, oh my gosh, I realized what was happening and I took care of the issue and I woke up this morning no headache. Like I literally was waking up every day taking Tylenol and ibuprofen Like that's how bad my headache was. Woke up this morning no headache. So much energy. And so that dark dense energy can really affect your emotions and your mind. So the higher realm sources of dark energy, dense energy, can actually really mess with your mind and your thoughts and decisions. So that's one of the things I love to do for my clients is like look at what dark dense energy might be affecting them and clear that out. Because if you have dark dense energy affecting you, it's going to feel like you're just constantly swimming and can't get anywhere, and there's all different symptoms like headaches, nausea, feeling like what's the point of living like all of this. Those are all signs that there's a dark force, dark energy issue. And again, this is something we were not taught here in the US at all. Right, and there's a reason for that, and it's to keep you stuck where you're at. So I cleared that and it was like, oh my gosh, I woke up feeling amazing, right.

Speaker 1: 21:23

So my son, who was battling very severe ADHD, odd symptoms just a year ago I had him at the Amen Clinic. I was taking him to doctors I mean, even at the Amen Clinic appointment he was punching me, hitting me, biting me, and at the Amen Clinic they don't like to put kids on medication, only like the very severe cases. And the doctor that saw us was like maybe we should put him on medication for you and for him. But my intuition was like no, do not put him on medication, this is not necessary. So I knew there had to be a way and he no longer has ADHD. It's like night and day. So I did that using certain supplements.

Speaker 1: 22:08

And then also my intuitive teacher mentor had looked in for me and I might have mentioned this on the last podcast but told me he needs 37 minutes of my uninterrupted time to really just focus on whatever he wants to do. So I put my phone away, I sit with him for 37 minutes doing whatever it is he wants to do, and it's different for every kid. So if you have a child who's experiencing this book a one-on-one with me. I'll link it in the show notes and I can look in for you and, like tell you what your child needs. My intuitive said no, he's only like on a scale of zero to 100%. He only has like 11% ADHD.

Speaker 1: 22:45

That it was a reflection of me and my energy Right? So when I dialed in my emotional mastery, my emotional intelligence, and I do teach all of this and unbothered, which is a masterclass, or if you join my membership, you actually will get unbothered and unbonded for life, even after you leave the membership. So those are emotional mastery and then clearing out toxic relationship, toxic energy. Um, so I teach it in both of those places. So I, when I started shifting myself, that's when he started shifting and at the same time I was doing the 37 minutes and, like I said, he is night and day. It's amazing. It was at the point where I had to have like meetings with his teacher and the principal and all of this stuff because of you know his behavior. But when they're seven or younger, it's a reflection of you and their little teachers showing us where we're out of balance. And what makes me so sad is like if I didn't know that and I was frustrated with him and yelling at him. All that does is create another human who's going to grow up with issues, right?

Speaker 1: 23:56

So if you are a parent and your child is seven or younger, it's a reflection of you and if you need help with this, again book a one-on-one with me. If your child is older, like my 10-year-old, it can still be a reflection of you. Sometimes it's typically a life lesson they are going to be working through, but the earlier they work through it, the better. So my 10 year old is really working on seeing her uniqueness and how special she is, right. So that's what I'm really working with her on right now. And we usually have everybody has at least reoccurring soul life lesson, and the sooner that you can fix that and like shift past it, the I don't want to say easier things will be, but just clearer and the more that you can get on track with what your soul was meant to do in this life, right.

Speaker 1: 24:59

So in my membership I am going to do a month on high conscious parenting, high frequency parenting, and that, for now, will only be available in my membership. So in my membership you also get there's like over there might be 70 audios at this point, but all in different categories so you could hop in and just start going through the material. You get a monthly one on one check in with me on Telegram, where you can tell me one thing that you're struggling with or like whatever you want me to look into intuitively, and I will look into that for you. If you have a dark force issue, I will actually clear it for you and then I will teach you how to clear it for yourself next time. So it really is such a valuable place and the best place to like take your healing seriously, because healing is always evolving. We are never going to be oh, one day I'm 100% healed like that's never going to happen. As long as you're a human right, we're going to be facing this.

Speaker 1: 26:01

But you'll be better prepared if you know how to deal with the emotions right, because when your emotions are high, then you are a match for dark force, dark energy. They see that your emotions are high, you're vulnerable. They'll swoop in and they can really derail your life. They'll swoop in and they can really derail your life. So if you want to learn about all of this, like I do recommend, just come into the masterclass. It's called the X detox masterclass, but I'm going to break down all four pillars that I teach my clients. So, even if you're not struggling with, like, some kind of relationship issue, the information would still be helpful. It gives you kind of like a taste of how I teach, how I work. Then you'll know, like, if you feel like this work is a good fit, because, remember, being emotionally reactive isn't a personality trait, it's an energy leak. Okay, I'm going to wrap it up there.

Speaker 1: 26:59

I think I touched on everything I wanted to share and if you loved this episode, please let me know. Please DM me on Instagram at Angela Marie Christian, tell me your biggest takeaway If you're ready to step into this high frequency healing and emotional mastery. I'll share all the links in the show notes Until next time, sending you all so much love. Bye, christian, and feel free to tag me when you share it with your friends. Every single review matters and it helps me reach more people who want to improve this world. If you leave a review, let me know and I'll send you a little thank you gift. Any resources mentioned in the show will be linked in the show notes. Sending you all love Bye.