Let Your Inner Mean Girl Speak

You’ve probably heard “stay positive” so many times that you’ve started to treat irritation like a personal failure. We’re flipping that script. When we try to jump straight into high-frequency emotions without processing what actually hit us, we don’t become more evolved, we often become more suppressed. And suppression has a way of leaking out later through tension, passive aggression, spirals of overthinking, or bigger emotional blowups.

I’m sharing why your inner mean girl, in a safe and private container, can be a powerful pressure valve for emotional regulation. We get into the nervous system science behind venting, including oxytocin (the bonding hormone) and the “tend and befriend” response, plus how cortisol and stress can drop when you feel heard. I also walk through a real trigger moment and show the exact sequence I use: let the charge discharge first, then look for the reflection, then access compassion from a truthful place instead of spiritual bypassing.

We’ll also talk boundaries, discernment, and why this isn’t permission to be mean to people out loud. The goal is emotional mastery: using private release to create clarity, then choosing your next move with intention. If you want practical tools for staying balanced, improving relationships, and building a calmer nervous system while doing deep inner work, you’ll get a lot out of this one.

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Transcript

Welcome And Why We Unveil

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Welcome to Unveiled Podcast. I'm your host, Angela Christian, and I help you with unveiling your true self by peeling away the layers that society was you. I do this with a combination of neurocience, energetic, and in spiritual wisdom. I went from underpaid and overworked in corporate America to launching a six-figure company that continued to grow. I went from toxic relationships to be happy and single for over a year as I worked and continue to work on becoming the best version of myself and so much more. My greatest passion is to help women and mothers feel, transform, and become the highest versions of themselves. As I continue to grow and expand my intuitive knowledge and unique wisdom, I'll be including you on my journey to millions. So let's get into it. Hello and welcome back to Unveiled.

Why The Inner Mean Girl Matters

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All right, I have a fun little episode for you that was inspired last week. And I'm hoping it'll give some of you high-frequency people a little sigh of relief because I do find this to be a really important topic. And someone actually just asked me about a similar thing yesterday, and I mentioned I would be talking a little bit about this on the podcast. So today's episode will be a little different, but very important. So it might be a little surprising coming from me, someone who spends a lot of time talking about high-frequency emotions, staying balanced, working through reflections, which that is part of it, and then staying in that energetic alignment, right? But today we're going to talk about your inner mean girl and specifically why letting her out for a little bit can be one of the healthiest things you can do. So just stay

The Nervous System Science Of Venting

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with me. And actually, there is science that backs this up. I actually came across something yesterday in the airport on my way back from Park City that just really validated everything I was already thinking. So when we vent to a close friend, or even just to ourselves, like I'll do it a lot just to myself, but I also have a best friend where I'll tell her specifically, my mean girl needs to come out for a minute, and then I just say what I need to say, and then I feel so much better. Then I go into my high frequency, like balancing, right? So it gets it out. So even if it's just you in your car, nobody can hear you, and you're venting. I will even like voice note myself sometimes and then delete it afterwards, but it actually releases oxytocin. And if you're not familiar, oxytocin is often called the bonding hormone. It's the same hormone that gets released when you hug someone that you love, when a mom holds their baby, and when you feel truly seen by another person. So scientists have identified something called the tend and befriend response. And it's essentially the female nervous system's answer to fight or flight. So instead of fighting or running, we connect and communicate. And when we do that, oxytocin rises and cortisol, the stress hormone, comes down. So, in other words, venting isn't just emotionally satisfying, it is literally calming your nervous system at a biological level. Now, there are nuances here, so I will get into that. But the idea that we should always be positive, right? Or always be gracious, always take the high road immediately without ever actually processing what we're feeling, that is suppression. And yes, we can get there where it can be an immediate balance. I'm getting closer to that, but there are steps to getting there. Like I think a lot of people think, oh, well, I'm I need to be high frequency. I need to balance this out immediately, which yes, you can get there. But this is just a step along the way to be able to notice, okay, that triggered me a little bit. Here's what my mean girl would want to say. And then now let's look at the reflective pieces and all of that, right? So then at a later time, you won't even feel triggered. You'll be able to just go right into the balancing. But we do need that bridge. So even if it is for a short amount of time, right? There needs to be some kind of realistic path to being able to balance immediately in the moment because otherwise you're just suppressing emotions, and that's gonna pop up as a reflection somewhere else.

A Triggering Dolly Parton Moment

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So I'll give you guys a really good example of this. And this involves Dolly Parton, just I promised. So it's really interesting. Last week I saw something because sometimes I'll go on Instagram and just kind of see what's popping up in the news. I do like there's a lot of these people sharing Dark Force videos, and while they might not always, most of the time, they don't, they aren't translating them 100% accurately. I like that they're out there bringing about awareness, right? So one person was sharing this video of Dolly Parton where she asks for Taylor Swift's firstborn, flashes the devil sign. And I was like, what? Because it was so clear. I went to Dolly's Instagram account. It is on her Instagram account. You can very much see it right when she asks for their. She's doing it in a joking way, but she is not joking. She flashes the devil sign when she asks for their firstborn. I don't care who you are. If you're joking about taking my firstborn child, no. Like, I'm sorry. There's just there's no joking about that, especially when I have clients who have been um subjected to things such as firstborn sacrifices. This is a very real thing in the world. It's not a joke. So knowing that and knowing this dark force world very well, I was like, oh, this is part of some kind of public display. And she's totally putting it in our faces. And it's almost like she's testing how how much she can get away with. I mean, all you have to do, a lot of people were surprised about Dolly, but if you just follow the thread back, you would see who she supports, who she's a part of, right? So if you follow the thread back, and this is public information, right? So first of all, she created the video. I literally took a snapshot of her throwing up the devil sign while she's asking for the firstborn. I didn't create that video. Dolly did, right? So that's the first piece to understand. The next piece is if you look at her part in the pandemic and all of that, she was very much supporting the development of the jab. She made a million-dollar donation to Vanderbilt University. Who is a silent partner who helped fund that university? The Rockefellers. And if you have heard me talk about Dark Forces, the Rockefellers are one of the top people in the Dark Force world, along with the Rothschilds and Soros, right? So she even created, like, she even like filmed herself getting the Moderna shot, which I highly doubt she even got it, to be honest. She even created the vaccine song, swapping out uh Joeline for vaccine. I mean, she is really, really um, if you look at all of this, you can see her part in the Dark Force world. And I actually did a little digging on her after this situation last week, and she actually brings in more from Dollywood than she does for her music. So yeah, she still makes a lot from her music catalog, right? But Dollywood, which is a theme park, right? And for those of you, if you're new to my podcast, this might not be the best episode to start with. So I would go listen to some older episodes first. But theme parks like Disneyland, they are used for harvesting energy. So it would make sense that she also has this whole Dollywood thing happening, right? She wants to stay relevant and she has made deals that she has to follow through with, right? And so it is a dark, dark world in Hollywood and in the music industry. To get to where she's at, she's done some dark things. That is not, I mean, these days it shouldn't be that much of a surprise, right? So anyway, getting back to my whole point here, I shared her own video with a snapshot on her putting up the devil sign. And again, it's not super easy to throw up the devil sign, like you kind of have to think about it. And then I put on my story, many of you saw it, I just said like Dolly throwing up the devil sign while asking for Taylor's firstborn, and said that she's one of the darkest in the music industry. She is, along with Taylor Swift, along with Beyonce, along with Lady Gaga, Madonna. They're all very dark and by choice at this point. So a lot of people were shocked, but had respectful conversations with me, right? And I don't really like putting out content that's going to create any kind of triggered reaction. But sometimes it's so in our face that I'm like, okay, this is way too much in our face to just not say something, right? And that's part of my job is to wake people up. So this woman responded who I actually know. Like I've I met her through an ex 10 years ago. We would be at the same birthday parties. I didn't interact with her a ton. Like it's not like we were friends. I know she took a lot of Adderall, did other drugs, that kind of thing. She was very much, she's very much a party girl. Other than that, I didn't really know her that well. And I have no idea like what she does for work or anything like that. And we had been following on, following each other on social media for years, right? Just as a lot of acquaintances do. So she responded to me and said something like, You've got to be kidding me. I work with Dolly, and she is one of the sweetest people I've ever met. Stop spreading lies and hate. And I was just like, ooh, okay. My mean girl bubbled up. So I was like, you know what? I actually was messaging my best friend about it. And I was like, I just need to say what my mean girl wants to say really fast. So I just said it, kind of like released the air there. Then I took a step back and I was like, okay, now I can look at the reflective piece, right? Because it was definitely a reflection of me. She's accusing me of something that doesn't make sense, then that's not true. Because one, I'm I didn't create the video. She, Dolly did, right? I'm not spreading lies or hate. I'm actually sharing something that's very real. And I feel like a big majority of the world knows that that these things are happening in Hollywood in the music industry. It's like by this time with the Epstein files, like it shouldn't be shocking that these things are happening. And so again, I don't know what she meant by she works with her, but I've had I dated a country music singer years ago who was a little dark when I first started dating him. By the end, he was beyond dark. And he has shared the stage with Dolly. He has worked with her. I have a friend who's been to Dolly's house, has had some really weird interactions with her. I wanted to say, like, oh, you work with her and you think that she's nice. Why do you think celebrities and musicians are so popular? While they're starting to decline a lot, but it's because they put on an act. Like, I didn't think that would be that hard to understand. And of course, when we are talking about celebrities like Dolly, Beyoncé, there are entities involved. Those entities aren't acting as that person 24-7. Believe it or not, those entities need to go take a break sometimes. And then, you know, the human is there. So there are going to be a lot of celebrities who seem nice. I've met celebrities before who seemed nice. I've also been drugged by a very famous drummer who, if I mentioned the name right now, you would know who he is. And I've seen that whole dark side of things. So that's part of their job is to act nice to people. I'm guessing she's not besties with her. They're not at each other's house braiding each other's hair. It's probably she's exchanged some emails or phone calls with her. So it was just so interesting. I was like, hmm, okay. My reflective piece is obviously accusing myself of something that isn't true, right? So then I worked through that, put that aside. Then I was able to look at this woman and I was like, okay, what is her highest value? And you do need some intuition for this. So I looked in and I could see that her highest value was feeling like cool, like she wants to be seen and valued. And so I was like, oh, that makes a lot of sense because she thinks probably, I don't know, I don't think I've even looked at any of her stories or photos in a very, very long time. So I don't know what she does. But she probably thinks it's so cool that she works with Dolly. And like that is kind of something that makes her feel special. So me tearing Dolly down, she's taking it as I'm tearing her down. So she took that as a very personal attack, even though it wasn't, right? So I kind of piece it all together afterwards. And then it's like I have no hard feelings for her. Yes, I did block her because I looked in to see is this something that I could like have a conversation with her about and try to like get a deeper understanding. Her consciousness was pretty low and she just wasn't going to understand. It would have just been a back and forth argument. I don't have time for that. I'm sorry. If you want to stick your head in the sand and pretend like these celebrities who are looking like they're 30 when they're like, what? I don't even know how old Dolly is, 70 or something. Maybe she's 80. Um, there's something going on there, not to mention all the Epstein files and everything else. So I'm not going to try to rip her head out of the uh sand. So it wasn't worth my time. I checked with my higher self. Should I talk to her? Should I respond? No. Should I just block and be on and be gone? Yes. But it gave me great content here and it gave me some ideas because I've had people asking, like, how do you control your emotions in the moment? And it's not the best thing to just suppress them, right? Because then you're going to push them down. They have to come out. I kind of, when I was imagining that, it's kind of like, I don't know why this picture came into my mind, but like, let's say you're holding a balloon and you like squeeze the top of the balloon, that air has to go somewhere. It's going to go down and fill out the bottom part of the balloon, right? So you're just pushing the emotions down, but it's still in you. They're not out of you. So it's better if we can take this little step towards being able to balance in the moment, right? So there are other instances where I am able to balance immediately, where someone will say something to me, like a family member will say something to me. Usually I'm already kind of expecting it, and I balance it immediately. But this kind of caught me off guard, and it was just like such a weird accusation that I'm spreading hate and lies when it's like a literally, you can still go onto Dolly's Instagram page and see it. Like I, it was very just bizarre. And because I knew this person, I was like, I don't really want to get into a back and forth. She knows one of my exes, and I don't know. I never got the best feeling from her to begin with, like back in the day. So it's not like it was a relationship I felt like worth saving or something. So anyway, my point here is if you are triggered, which I was, I felt a little sting for being vulnerable, for sharing something that's very real, something that's hurting kids. I mean, when you know how dark Dolly is, and you look at the fact that she has access to kids all over the world, their addresses from ages zero to five. And my nephew used to receive her Imagination Library books. And I thought it was so, you know, back before I knew all of this stuff. I was like, oh, it's so generous of her to do all of this. Well, it's much more than just generous, but I wouldn't personally want her and her business knowing where my children live. And so when you think about that and you see, I've been seeing a lot of these big organizations lately being called out for child trafficking, for you know, organizations that are actually built to help kids. A lot of them actually have a child trafficking um issue underneath. It's coming out more and more. So just kind of just to plant the seed there. Um, but yeah, I felt a little bit of a sting for being talked to that way with zero respect and acting as if I'm doing something wrong when I'm actually trying to protect kids and people from predatory behavior, you know. But again, I knew it was reflective. I knew it was something I needed to kind of look in. And then look, it brought me this gift of sharing this podcast. So it was all perfect. But the old me might have just like tried to swallow it down and just been like, whatever, she just doesn't get it. And I might have tried to just push it away, or maybe I would have kept replaying, like, oh, I should have said this, I should have said that, and not really just give my inner meme girl center stage for a few minutes, let it out to my best friend, and then I, you know, have that feeling, that oxytocin of feeling heard. And then I can take the next step, which is looking at the reflections, balancing it out. Because when you're suppressing that emotion, do you think you're going to be able to clearly see the reflections and move forward? Likely not. At some point, yes, you will be able to not suppress it, but you'll be able to just see it immediately and balance it out. So again, when I finally came to the conclusion that yes, she was being a reflection, she stepped in to play a role for me to show me that I was falsely accusing myself of something. And then it was also about her, right? And once I could see that it felt like to her I was tearing her down, I actually had some compassion for her because I know what it's like to tie your sense of self-worth to something external. A lot of people do that. I've definitely done it, and we all do it in in different ways. And it's something I've actively done a lot of work on is not tying my self-worth to something external. But I couldn't get to that compassion while I was still holding the irritation in my body. So I had to let my mean girl speak. So I just want to be clear what I'm

Release First Then Find Compassion

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saying here. I'm not saying to go be mean to people. I'm pretty sure you understand that. I'm not saying weaponize your inner mean girl against others or use her as an excuse to say cruel things to someone out loud. What I'm saying is there is a version of emotional release that is private, safe, and actually key for your well-being. And we've been so conditioned to suppress it in the name of being nice or spiritual or high vibe that we've essentially cut off a really important pressure valve. So just think about it. If you're angry at someone and you stuff it down, where does it go? It doesn't disappear, it sits in your body. It might come out sideways in passive aggression, in physical tension, and snapping at someone else who has nothing to do with it, right? Or it creates a reflection. But when you let yourself actually feel it, say the thing in private to a friend, you complete the emotional cycle. Now there's other ways we can too, but this is just something I do. Your nervous system gets to discharge the energy, oxytocin rises, cortisol drops. Sorry, my dog is going crazy right now, and I'm just gonna keep talking. And from that calmer place, you can actually look at the reflection and see what's going on, and then you can access compassion. That's not low frequency, it's actually emotional mastery in action, getting you closer to being able to balance things in real time. Now, ideally, you're doing with this with someone you deeply trust or just yourself, right? With my best friend and I, we allow ourselves to do this, and we'll even say, I just need to need to let my meme girl out for a minute, and we'll just say it. Then we'll work on the high frequency stuff, right? But the point is there's a safe container for it. So you're not like performing or editing or worrying about being judged because the oxytocin release actually happens through the act of connection. Even if you're just connecting with yourself, you can even just do you can be venting to your higher self. That's still a connection, right? So when you witness yourself, when you give yourself permission to feel something fully without shame, you are essentially being a trusted friend and your nervous system will react appropriately. And then once you've had that release, then the real work can be done. And if you don't have intuition, you could just try to look at this logically. Like, what was this person doing? So I you don't even need intuition to look at it and be like, okay, she's falsely accusing me of something that doesn't make sense, right? Then you just try to see where you're doing that for yourself. Then you can access compassion. If I had tried to go straight to compassion, it would have just been like lying to myself. So, and that's what like a lot of people call spiritual bypassing, right? So we don't want to pretend that we're fine with it. We want to, if we need to, have that moment to vent, then move forward. Now, obviously, there is the case where this could be happening too much. And if that's the case, I would recommend some kind of emotional mastery training. For me, it doesn't happen a ton, but you know, when you're working on increasing your frequency, increasing your gifts, all of that, you will have more reflection. So it might happen a little bit more in different cycles of your life. So this week, just give yourself permission to let your inner mean girl have the floor for a minute in your car, in your room, to your best friend. Just let her say the things she needs to say, get it out of your body, and then just notice the release and then notice how the reflection is easier to resolve. The compassion comes easier, all of that, right? So I would love to hear from you if you try this.

Relationship Offer And Free Q&A

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Also, on the topic of relationships and reacting and all of that. If you listen to my Sunday source this last week, I did open up a brand new offer to people. I have what's called a relationship analysis where I can look in at a relationship with your current partner, or maybe you're looking for a soulmate, maybe it's a family member, maybe it's a child, and I'll help you figure out the blocks. Or if it's like you're wanting to call in your perfect partner, we'll look at what's standing in the way, all of that. I opened up five spots at 250, which is the lowest it will ever be. I've already filled three of those. So there are a couple spots left, and then the price will go up. So this is a remote session read. I'll send you an audio with all of the information, and then you get a follow-up Zoom call with me to go over any clarifying questions. So this is an offer that is going to go fast. So if you're hearing this, you can click the link below in the show notes. I'm not guaranteeing that there will be 250 spots left, but they will keep going up until it reaches the full price. So the link below will just show you whatever the current price is. And before I forget, we do have a free, if you've gone through my scene clearly free dark four series, we have a QA coming up next week. So you can submit questions ahead of time, which I do recommend because I do focus on the submitted questions first, then I do live with time permitting. So I will link that in the show notes. You do need to have gone through the free dark four series because they are questions related to that or general dark forces. But that series gives people a foundation so that we're not answering like more of the basic questions in these QAs that we can go a little deeper after you've had those five days of training. But I'm excited to start diving into those with you guys and yeah, sending you so much love. Bye. Thank you for listening to Unveiled. I always love hearing your takeaways. So please connect with me on Instagram at AngelaMurray Christian and feel free to tag me when you share it with your friends. Every single review matters, and it helps me reach more people who want to improve this world. If you leave a review, let me know and I'll send you a little thank you gift. Any resources mentioned in the channel will be linked in the show notes, sending you all to love.